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Essential HTML Skills For Article Authors – 7 Tips

Bloged in Better Publishing by Admin Wednesday December 31, 2008 at about 10:52 pm

Many successful authors close their mind to learning HTML because they figure they don’t need to know it. I’ve been in technology, marketing and writing on the Internet for a decade+ now and I too shut my mind to learning HTML… until earlier this year. My thinking was that HTML coders only make $8-$10/hr and why would I want to learn a skill that I can outsource to someone who specializes in HTML coding?

Guess what? You don’t have to learn more than 15 minutes of HTML knowledge to significantly improve the quality of your articles. In today’s issue, I’m going to show you the top 7 easy-to-learn essential HTML skills that can help any article author make better looking articles before the day is over.

The 7 HTML “MUST KNOW” article author skills include how to format a URL or an email address, how to enhance your text with BOLD, ITALICS, or the UNDERLINE font attribute and how to set up a bullet or numbered list in HTML.

  1. How To Make A URL/Website Address “Linkable”:

    This:

    <a href="http://EzineArticles.com/" rel="nofollow">http://EzineArticles.com/</a> will create this: http://EzineArticles.com/

    Just substitute your website address from the above code and now you know how to “link” up a website address. Some like to create anchor text links or what I call, “keyword stuffing.” Here is the code to create links out of keywords:

    Ezine Articles will create this: Ezine Articles

    One Note: Use anchor text links sparingly when submitting articles to directories as some have limitations on the number of times the same URL can be linked up. For example, with EzineArticles.com, you are only allowed to have one URL in a given article that is the same and your article could be rejected if you have two links to the same URL regardless as to whether you linked it up like the first and/or second example above.

  2. How To Make Your Email Address “Linkable”:

    This:

    youraddress@your-domain-name.tld will create this: youraddress@your-domain-name.tld

    One Note: It is never a good idea to put your email address in your article because your email address will get harvested by spammers who use web email extractor bots to scour the Internet. Better to put a link to your contact information if you must.

  3. How To Make Something BOLD:

    This:

    <b>Make my words bold</b> will create this: Make my words bold

  4. How To Make Something ITALICS:

    This:

    <i>Make my words italics</i> will create this: Make my words italics

  5. How To Make Something UNDERLINED:

    This:

    <u>Make my words underlined</u> will create this: Make my words underlined

  6. How To Make A Bullet Point List:

    This:

    <ul> <li>First bullet</li> <p> <li>Second bullet</li> <p> <li>Third bullet</li> <p></ul> <p> will create this:

    • First bullet
    • Second bullet
    • Third bullet
  7. How To Make A Numbered List:

    This:

    <ol>
    <li>First point</li> <p>
    <li>Second point</li> <p>
    <li>Third point</li> <p>
    </ol> <p> will create this:

    1. First point
    2. Second point
    3. Third point

By opening up your mind to allow yourself to learn the above 7 essential HTML tips for article authors, you can improve the quality of your articles immediately.

EzineArticles Expert Author Christopher Knight

About The Author:

Christopher M. Knight invites you to submit your best articles for massive exposure to the high-traffic EzineArticles.com directory. When you submit your articles to EzineArticles.com, your articles will be picked up by ezine publishers who will reprint your articles with your content and links in tact giving you traffic surges to help you increase your sales. To submit your article, setup a membership account today: http://EzineArticles.com/submit/

Telemarketing Training Pro Says “The Phone Will Rise Again!”

Bloged in Sales Tips by Admin Wednesday December 31, 2008 at about 9:34 am

During the last few decades telephone communication, and especially telemarketing, have gotten a bad rap, resulting in the establishment of The Do Not Call Registry, and the seeking out of alternative marketing media, such as email and the Internet.

But there is no medium as direct and effective as reaching out and selling someone by phone. This hasn’t changed, despite the black eye that telemarketing has earned because of a few bad practitioners.

Frankly, I believe there are few media that are as empowering as the phone.

Let me tell you why I say this.

Just this week I visited a very successful financial services firm. It uses a number of means to market, including direct mailings, retail displays, seminars, and personal visitations.

But to round out its marketing mix, every salesperson has to put in a minimum of phone time, and there are numerous cubicles reserved for this purpose in the middle of the agency.

When you inspect these work areas you’ll see they are Spartan.

A chair, a writing surface, a few pages of letter sized listsno computersand of course, a presentation and a single line telephone.

This is the stuff of magic, this bare bones assortment of items.

These few, inexpensive tools produce a ton of business with buyers who are, after all is said and done, grateful they were called about a vital product.

The phone may have “gone underground” during the past several years, but it will rise again, especially in the esteem of marketers who will see once more, that reaching out and selling someone is the best and cheapest way of earning new business!

Dr. Gary S. Goodman is the world’s leading authority in telematketing, tele-sales, telephone etiquette, and customer service by telephone. A best-selling author, his 12 books have sold hundreds of thousands of copies, and his audio and video training programs are popular with sales and customer service professionals, worldwide. He is President of www.Customersatisfaction.com and The Goodman Organization, and his consulting list reads like a Who’s Who of the Fortune 1000. Inquiries about his keynote speeches, seminars, and comprehensive training programs can be directd to gary@customersatisfaction.com. He can be contacted by phone at: (818) 243-7338.

Poker Player Profiles: Antonio Esfandiari

Bloged in Funny Farm, Games, World Of Gambling by Admin Tuesday December 30, 2008 at about 10:51 am

Antonio Esfandiari first came to poker renown when he showed up on an early season of the World Poker tour as a very young and new player. Known as ‘The Magician’ for his literally having worked in magic for years, Antonio’s WPT performance had some level of magic to it in that at least for the first half of the final table he seemed to have the touch: he boggled Phil Hellmuth to the point of exasperation (back in the days before Hellmuth became intolerable) and ran over chips by will alone.

I have to admit, in the early days of his showiness and semi-cocky style, I couldn’t really stand the guy, but in further time Antonio had revealed himself as a more mature, sturdy poker player in the game.

Capable of making moves in the right spots and tricking players into trying to make moves against him when he has the nuts, Antonio has an arsenal of tricks up his sleeve (pun intended) that might throw even season players off. He seems on the verge of super tight and wild throw offs at all times, while often appearing in the middle with a really solid and straight forward style. This kind of variance, though, is what earns him the respect and tendency to not quite ever be sure where the Magician is at, which is one of the greatest features a poker player can have.

5 Effective Web Writing Tips

Bloged in Better Publishing by Admin Monday December 29, 2008 at about 11:01 pm

Writing for the web is very different from writing for the print medium. Writing for the web requires some special abilities. Mastering these abilities is crucial to establish yourself as a well known author or content writer in this challenging medium.

Here are a few key tips to make you an expert in writing for the web.

Make your document scan able

People scan a web page rather than read them. Make your document easily readable by using simple and short sentences. A few short sentences make short paragraphs. Short paragraphs are more easily scanned than longer ones.

Use heads, subheads and lists

Start the writing with a header followed by short sentences. Use as many sub heads as required for different points. Sometimes you may also use a list to highlight all the important points.

The title could be short and work the best. However longer titles can have keywords and are more searchable

Use of Keywords

Being searchable is an important aspect of Web writing. Whatever be the title of your topic, article or web page, use related key words as often as possible throughout the page. Start with a summary which has a higher density of these keywords followed by a liberal sprinkling of them throughout the copy.

However the use of keywords must be natural and should not be used without making sense just for being searchable.

Provide links for additional information

This is something unique to web writing. Wherever you want to be descriptive or provide more information you can provide a link to the required page. While this makes your writing to the point, the reader has the option to learn more on the subject if he so desires.

Summarize

The best principle to follow in web writing is tell what you want to tell. Tell it. Tell what you have told.

Start your writing with a small summary of what you want to say. Then say what you want to in the main content. Finally conclude by giving a summary of what you have said.

Keeping these key techniques in mind for whatever you want to write for the web will make you more readable, keep your readers happy, search engines finding you easily and your own satisfaction at being able to deliver quality content.

R.G. Srinivasan is a Certified Trainer, Writer and Author with more than two decades of managerial experience. He writes a regular blog on home-business resources which you may check out at http://www.home-businessresources.blogspot.com for online marketing tips, resources, opportunities and online promotional strategies

Creative Presentation Openers That Work – How to Capture Your Audience’s Undivided Attention

Bloged in Better Publishing by Admin Monday December 29, 2008 at about 3:00 am

Most presenters begin their presentation in the usual manner…

“Hello my name is Fred Flintstone and I am here today to discuss technology in pre-historic times.”

While your name can be very interesting (especially to you), it is not a very compelling way to begin a presentation. I hate to be the one to break the news to you, but when you begin this way, audiences usually forget your name and worse yet, they forget YOU!

A great way to begin a presentation is with an attention-getting device that will get the audience EXCITED about listening to the rest of your presentation. Some of the best ways I have found to capture the audience’s attention are:

1. Rhetorical Question – A rhetorical question is a question to which no response is needed. Rhetorical questions are designed to be thought provoking, rather than answered out loud. An example of a rhetorical question might be, “If you were trapped on an island and could only have three things, what three things would you choose?” Not only does the audience begin thinking about how they would answer your questionthey wonder how this will tie into the presentation (which by the way, it must) and suddenlyyou’ve got them!

2. Relevant Story – Beginning a presentation with a story that directly relates to the topic is another great way to get the audience’s attention. A good story engages our audience’s hearts and minds and immediately draws them in. Make sure that the story is short (using a long story in the introduction can compromise the flow of the presentation) and makes a strong point. Here’s an example of an introductory story used for a presentation on the benefits of a 24 hour Nurse Line. “All of us have had frightening medical situations where the help of a registered nurse could come in handy. Let me tell you about a young mother, Marie, who was terrified when her two-month old infant son Sam woke up screaming in the middle of the night. He was burning up with a high fever and Marie didn’t know what to do. So she called the Nurse Line and they directed her to put him in a cool bath to bring his body temperature down. They stayed on the line with her until she was comfortable that she could handle the situation herself. Imagine having that kind of support available to you at all times of the day and night.”

3. Startling Statistic – A startling statistic can be great opener. For a presentation on drunk driving, you might begin with… “In the 30 minutes it will take for me to deliver this presentation, one person in the U.S. will die in an alcohol related traffic accident.” When using statistics, round the numbers, site your sources, and be sure to present current and accurate information.

4. Analogy – An analogy compares the known to the unknown, helping the audience better understand the unknown. When properly developed and explained, an analogy can be an interesting presentation opener. Here’s an analogy example… “Continuing to use this technology is like being on a lake in a rowboat full of holesinstead of patching the holes, all your time is consumed with scooping the water out of the boat.” You may not understand the technology, but now you know unequivocally, that it is like a sinking ship!

5. Humorous Anecdote – Humor is one of the BEST ways to win an audience over and get them enthusiastic about you and your presentation. Humor enhances the audience’s positive perception of you. When an audience laughs with you, chances are good they are also FOR YOU! The safest type of humor is stories or anecdotes that are uniquely yours. The problems you had traveling to get to your presentation make humorous presentation stories. Your dinner disaster is always good for a presentation laugh. One reminder worth mentioning–only use humor when you can relate it to the subject matterirrelevant jokes are not suitable presentation openers. Here’s an example of a humorous anecdote… “There is nothing more humbling than the honest opinion of a five year old. I was feeling really good about this outfit this morning (even preening a little in front of the mirror) when my five year old daughter came up to me and said, mommy, are you going to wear that table cloth to work?”

6. Curiosity – Provoking the audience’s sense of curiosity can also help you capture their attention. When we are curious about something, we tend to listen more closely to see how it works out. The TV news trailers you see during Prime Time television often use curiosity to try to entice you into staying up and watching the late news. “Tonight at 11:00, find out what vitamin combination can save your life.” In the presentation realm, you might use a more subtle tactic, “Today, I’m going to tell you three important things that I guarantee will change the way you do business forever…” Because they are curious, the audience will pay close attention to see what those things are.

7. Gimmick – The sole purpose of a gimmick is to capture the audience’s attention, so it makes sense that beginning with a gimmick is a good strategy. An example of a gimmick might be… A presenter who is going to speak about the benefits of a paperless office begins the presentation by dramatically crumbling papers and throwing them away. He/She then asks the audience to throw away all the paper that has been planted in front of them. Note that everyone loves a gimmick, as long as it is in good taste.

Remember, incorporating a good attention getter into the introduction of your presentation can mean the difference between being MEMORABLE or FORGETTABLE.

Debbie Bailey is a well-known Presentation Skills Consultant and author of the book “15 Presentation Secrets – How to WOW Even the Toughest Audience,” available at trainer2go.com/ebooks.html. For more information about Debbie, go to http://www.trainer2go.com.

Complete Physical Transformation Using The Purposefully Primitive Fitness Methodology

Bloged in Better Shopping by Admin Saturday December 27, 2008 at about 2:34 pm

The Purposeful Primitive approach to the art and science of physical renovation is deceptively simplistic. By using a few basic tools and food purchased from the grocery store, you can radically alter the way you look while simultaneously improving health, vitality and energy levels. The Primitive approach has two irreducible goals: tone, strengthen and increase muscle mass and function, and the systematic reduction of body fat. This methodology has been used by the athletic elite for decades and is shorn of fluff and bloat.

There are three core elements to any effective fitness regimen: progressive resistance training, cardiovascular training and nutrition . These are the three legs of the Fitness Triad. A Purposeful Primitive uses an unending rotation of simple yet effective methods within each of the three Triad component disciplines. Inter-related and inter-locking, the three disciplines compliment, stimulate and accelerate progress when linked and executed in a balanced, sane fashion.

The goal is to establish physical momentum and then keep the progress ball rolling.

Any fitness expert worth their salt will tell you is that stagnation is always just around the corner. The typical trainee finds a particular weight training routine, cardio routine or diet that they like and then proceed to stick with it for far too long. The dirty little secret of fitness is that almost any program of diet will produce results for the first 3-6 weeks. By exposing the body to a new and different mode of behavior (regular training, disciplined eating) progress will occur.

The problem is the human body is remarkably adaptive and from the time you begin using the new procedure, be it a weight training regimen, new aerobic routine or the latest diet craze, the body is seeking to neutralize the impact. If you stay with the new training or eating approach long enough the human body will find a way to ‘normalize’ what was once radical and effective. For this reason just about any new fitness or eating regimen will yield results for the first month or so. The inevitable problem is resistance to change: once the progress vein is exhausted, rather than recognize stagnation and rotate in a fresh new approach, trainees stick with the now ineffectual mode.

Among fitness adherents there is a disturbing and predictable phenomenon: developing an unhealthy and counterproductive allegiance to a once-effective routine or diet. Out of loyalty or a misguided sense of stick-to-it-ness, they take what was once (and no longer is) effective and turn it into a religion.

The Purposeful Primitive recognizes that all routines and diets, no matter how sophisticated or effective run their natural course and peter out. We recognize the indisputable fact of life and always have another equally effective routine or eating strategy ready to roll out. Progress is the most important product.

ENTHUSIASM TRUMPS WILLPOWER EVERY SINGLE TIME!

A key element to success is being able to develop a genuine enthusiastic love for the physical renovation process. If you view the fitness as drudgery and dread the thought of training and hate the idea of preparing foods that enhance the performance-eating portion of the fitness equation, then you are doomed to eventually quit.

Those with fabulous willpower last longer then those with lesser mental discipline, but regardless, all acts of will come to an end sooner or later. As any competent psychiatrist will attest that while willpower is great for getting a life-changing process or procedure started, at some point in the foreseeable future, willpower and determination must morph into enjoyment.

If you are able to develop enthusiasm (and love) for the process, effort will magically regenerate itself and develop a self-sustaining, self-regenerating momentum. When workouts become enjoyable and something that you look forward to, when you look forward to eating great tasting diet meals that happen to be good for you, the battle is won. Physical transformation becomes not a matter or if but when. Variety is one critical element to developing self-sustaining enthusiasm for the process.

Expose yourself to a wide range of training modes and systems, and amongst them you will most certainly find one or more that you actually enjoy. Ditto for nutrition: the key to eating correctly is taste. Learn how to prepare great tasting foods that also happen to be absolutely the perfect foods for you to consume. When all three elements are in continual rotation and when you look forward to engaging in each leg of the Fitness Tripod then inevitably the human body will undergo a positive molecular transformation.

PRIMITIVE SYNERGY: When all three elements of the Purposefully Primitive fitness triad are in place and practiced in a balanced and proportional fashion, a physical synergy occurs wherein results exceed all realistic expectations . Better to do a bit of each discipline than a whole lot of any one or two elements.

Typically a fitness adherent will latch onto one (or two) of the irreducible core elements and work the hell out of it. Unfortunately this approach will only get you so far. When progressive resistance training, cardiovascular training and performance eating are all present and accounted for and executed in a systematic, balanced fashion, results occur at a phenomenal rate that has to be experienced to be believed.

The Purposeful Primitive begins the transformation process by realistically accessing how much time they have to devote on a weekly basis to the total effort. Then the available time is apportioned in a fairly equal way. The PP allots time for meal preparation and grocery shopping and plans ahead on all fronts. Ample amounts of quality food need be prepared ahead of time, ready to be consumed at a moment’s notice. This notion of balance and proportionality carries over into the composition of the individual meals. Primitive tactics used in a balanced fashion create critical mass. Physical synergy is real and when achieved results occur rapidly.

HOW WE TRAIN: Athletes know that training intensity is a force-multiplier. Better to have a second-rate training executed with great physical intensity than a super-sophisticated plan executed in a lackadaisical fashion. Those of us who belong to commercial gyms have no doubt noted that the vast majority of regular members never ever change physically despite being diligent and regular in their training. These diligent gym goers stay the same for very real physiological reasons: the human body does not transform itself in response to sameness; the human body changes its molecular structure only in response to the self-inflicted trauma of intense physical effort.

This is an inconvenient fact-of-life that promoters of commercial product gloss over or purposefully obfuscate. They want you to believe that their miracle product will allow you to by-pass all the blood, sweat and tears associated with true transformation. Wish it we so but this is the number one fitness myth. Intense training effort must be coordinated with a disciplined approach to nutrition.

The Purposeful Primitive understands that intense physical effort is required trigger muscle hypertrophy and intense effort is required to mobilize and oxidize stored body fat. The tools needed need not be sophisticated but the intensity generated need be sufficient to pull the hypertrophy trigger.

Generating training intensity is a learned trait and need not be hurtful, harmful or injurious. The good news is that by training intensely we need not train often – in fact by training as hard as we should in our progressive resistance training, too much training done too often is down right counter-productive.

Cardiovascular training, a.k.a. aerobics, are an indispensable leg of the fitness triad. Progressive resistance training builds and strengthens the 600+ muscles on the human body; cardiovascular training improves circulatory function, builds the internal heart pump muscle, increases the size of capillaries and prevents hardening of arterial walls. In addition aerobic activity burns calories and elevates the basal metabolic rate. Cardio exercise is the perfect complement to progressive resistance exercise — one exercise form provides what the other does not and vice versa. When both are practiced on a regular, systematic basis, the combination (in conjunction with performance eating) causes the body to respond to a degree that is not possible if one exercise form is practiced to the exclusion of the other.

PERFORMANCE EATING AND SKINNY-FAT PARADOX: Exercise need be coordinated with a specific eating strategy. Most will-driven, serious fitness adherents under-eat. You need to eat enough calories to support the intense training. The combination of intense exercise and too few calories is a recipe for disaster. Catabolism takes hold when the human body is over-worked and under-fed.

In the PP lexicon we call this ‘prison camp’ nutrition: work the prisoner to death through intense physical activity then starve them. Oh sure you will lose body weight by using prison camp methodology but the result is the “skinny-fat” syndrome. Skinny-fat occurs when the fitness adherent loses as much or more muscle tissue as the do body fat during the dietary process. The end result is the individual ends up a miniaturized version of their old fat self. True, they might lose 100-pounds of body weight — yet they still retain a high percentage of body fat. They have succeeded in replicating themselves in a way that is lighter but still fat, fat, fat.

The reason is rooted in simple physiology: when the body senses starvation, as it does when a person slashes too many calories too quickly, a primordial mechanism triggers that causes the body to hang onto body fat. Body fat is form of fuel and the last line of defense against starvation. If a starvation situation is sensed, the body’s innate wisdom holds onto the fat at all cost.

The body actually cannibalizes muscle tissue to preserve precious body fat. Rather than expend its precious body fat in the face of starvation, the body will strip muscles of amino content to serves as fuel to power activity. The PP avoids this metabolic catastrophe by never slashing calories. If you train intensely you need to eat. The PP loves to eat and eat often. Performance eating is the art and science of eating plenty of tasty food; yet paradoxically you are able to simultaneously oxidize stored body fat. Sound impossible? Champion bodybuilders eat upwards of 10,000 calories a day while maintaining 4-8% body fat percentiles.

How do they do this? Over time they have build up the body’s ability to consume calories without shuttling these calories into fat storage compartments. They have turned up the body’s thermostat and burn tons of calories while at rest. This is the opposite of an obese person’s sluggish metabolism. A champion athlete burns calories at a tremendous rate while an out-of-shape individual needs very few calories to exist. By engaging in intense physical activity and eating foods not easily converted in body fat the Purposeful Primitive raises their basal metabolic rate.

Does this mean we want you to eat 10,000 a day? Hardly, but in the finest tradition of Prometheus, the PP will expropriate the tactical architecture used by elite bodybuilders to aid the average individual build muscle, loss fat and stay healthy, sane and gobbling ample amounts of tasty food.

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER: Purposefully Primitive methods will work for you. Based in science and biology and drenched in decades of hardcore empirical experience, this approach to physical renovation yields significant, indisputable results in a short timeframe – provided you implement all three legs of the fitness tripod in a balanced fashion.

Marty Gallagher is a former fitness columnist for washingtonpost.com. He is also a former national and world champion powerlifter. Marty’s articles have been featured in Muscle Media, Muscle & Fitness, and Powerlifting USA magazines. His website, http://www.martygallagher.com, assimilates years of accumulated knowledge from the athletic elite and makes them accessible to the common person. The “Purposeful Primitive” way has been proven effective time after time after time for weight loss, increasing muscle tone, and complete physical transformation.

Angel

Bloged in Better Publishing by Admin Friday December 26, 2008 at about 12:53 am

He said he loved me; I don’t remember, while we were in junior high. He said we met around September, soon after, we said good-bye.

On the rocks that day I played, was when I caught his eye, I wrack my brain up till this day and still memories deny.

He moved away not too soon after, down to the sunny south. His love for me was set in plaster; his letters did so tout.

He came back home years afterwards when we were all grown up. We met again; love rushed forward, that love much like a pup’s.

We took a ride on his new bike up to the New York mountains. I realized then it was just like; for him I felt most certain.

I told him then that day we rode the feelings were not there. He took it well, he felt he owed me; it was only fair.

The Army called us both that year, we again went separate ways. For years the silence bothered me; our parting of the ways.

Then an ad in the Army Times caught another friend’s eyes. That feeling in my heart- sublime! the boundary was the skies.

There was Angel’s ad for me, that day in the control tower. He’d looked for me overseas; our friendship was not sour!

I got in touch, alas- he’d gone to serve in other lands. For months I’d searched both here and yon, contact was out of my hands.

Again, years passed and there he was, he’d shown up in New York; civilians now, he’d looked me up that night, long was our talk.

Occasionally, I’ll hear from him right now he’s in Iraq. This time it won’t be on a whim to say “I missed You!” when he’s back.

Writing Articles: The What

Bloged in Better Publishing by Admin Thursday December 25, 2008 at about 11:36 am

I wrote articles for 10 years for newspapers all over the world before I ever called them articles.

I thought I was writing columns. I did not know I was writing articles.

Your expertise in print

Simply stated, an article is your expertise in print.

Don’t believe you have an expertise in anything? Doubtful.

I’ve yet to meet the person from whom I could learn absolutley nothing. Which means everyone has some kind of expertise, even if it based solely on life experience the hard way.

Content is like royalty

On the internet, content is King and Queen.

And not just on the internet. Content is also royalty in off-line newspapers, magazines, books, etc.

Picture a balnk internet newsletter.

Picture a blank website.

Picture a blank newspaper or magazine.

Artilces are what fill up those blank spaces.

Now if you do the math, you will come to the conclusion that internet newsletters, weebsites, newspapers and magazines all need our articles.

Our articles are their content. Our articles our needed.

A mini informations delivery system

In our increasingly face paced culture, fewer and fewer people are taking the time to read entire books for information.

Articles are readable in minutes. Therefore articles are an excellent mini information delivery system for the 21st century.

Lots of fads come and go in the publishing business. Article are here to say, and will always be needed.

So get writing.

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Give Yourself the Gift of Presence

Bloged in Self Improvement Hub by Admin Thursday December 25, 2008 at about 9:31 am

Ask yourself if you have anything to worry about right now? Are you anxious at this moment? Not tomorrow, not an hour ago, now. No, I didn’t think you were. You have just had a taste of being present. If you want to learn how to eliminate stress from your life, to have better relationships with others and most of all, a greater connectedness with yourself…learning to focus on the present is a powerful technique to do so. When I first heard the expression being present, I didn’t know what it meant? But I have discovered since then, that it is one of most powerful destressors you can ever use. It simply means that you give your full attention to the situation or person in front of you right now.

If you ever slow down and check your thought processes you will notice that you probably spend vast amounts of time brooding on the past and maybe even more speculating about the future. This all means that you are not paying attention to the very task or person in front of you that needs to be attended to. If you are obsessed with the past or wondering about the future it is very easy to miss the opportunity, the delight and joy that is right in front of you. Speculation can cause great mental suffering. To paraphrase Benjamin Franklin, I’ve been through some terrible things in my life….some of which actually happened.

In fact, if you watch your own thought processes, it’s interesting to observe how we can rapidly concoct a whole saga from random incidents. Next time you try on a garment in a shop and it doesn’t fit, watch how your thought processes can rapidly move from “it doesn’t fit” to “I’m fat and ugly” to “No one will ever love me” in the space of milliseconds and the suffering that causes you.

Being present doesn’t mean that you stop wanting to achieve and be ambitious. But it does mean that you enjoy the journey as much as the destination and because you are giving high quality, focussed attention to the tasks and people around you moment by moment it means that your path will be a smoother one. Begin by paying attention to small everyday tasks; washing your hands, driving. Slowly you will find that this habit of paying attention will take root in other areas of your life and will be a powerful change agent.

Five ways to be present

1 Pay attention to what your five senses are telling you now…what do you hear, smell?

2 Ask yourself…what is the one thing I have to do now?

3 Check in with yourself. What am I feeling right now?

4 Ask yourself, what would I do if this moment was exactly what I needed?

5 What am I thinking right now…simply observing what you are thinking can be an eye-opener!

Benefits of being present

1 Seeing the world and the people around you with fresh unbiased eyes.

2 Increased quality of work as you focus exclusively on the task in front of you.

3 Improved relationships with the people around you. Few things are more attractive than a person who is truly present.

4 Elimination of the “when x happens, then I’ll be happy ” mindset. Greater enjoyment and gratitude for what you currently have.

5 Greater awareness of current opportunities.

Anne Walsh is a life coach based in Co. Galway Ireland. You get a free personal development e-course (Personal Freedom) when you sign up for her monthly ezine Bring your best self to light at http://www.annewalshcoach.com It’s full of tips and hints on how you can be your best.

How to Gracefully Leave After a Seminar or Speech When Someone is Hogging Your Time!

Bloged in Better Publishing by Admin Wednesday December 24, 2008 at about 6:51 pm

Meeting planners know the value of meticulous planning. They are responsible for selecting and contracting with the speaker, promoting the event, booking the hotel for the speaker, arranging transportation for the speaker and ensuring that the facilities are set up perfectly on the day of the seminar, writing and presenting an introduction of the speaker. Whew! With so many advance details to consider, it is no wonder that some meeting planners forget one of the most important times for the speaker……how to graciously exit after the speech!

Many big name speakers who have been through this routine thousands of times before have their agents arrange the contract carefully to arrange no more than hour for a reception either before or after the speech. They know the value of their time away from the crowds. It is the job of the meeting planner to be the buffer and tell the fans that Mr. or Ms. Celebrity has to catch a plane in 1 hour and has to be going. Most people respect that and let the star move on. But what about the rest of the speakers? How important is that time to them? And how can you tell whether or not the speaker is thrilled about staying around chatting with curious audience members, or dying to get the heck out of there and go to call their spouse and talk to their kids?

As a former celebrity agent and now a speaker myself, I have the advantage of coming from two perspectives. The agents’ job is to convince the meeting planner to rush the star home. As a speaker, I know the importance of spending some personal time with the audience to reinforce the friendly and supportive speech I just delivered…..up to a limit.

Recently I delivered workshops on Public Speaking and Professional Coaching. In order to arrive at the location, I had to get up several hours before my flight to fight traffic to get to Newark airport one hour in advance. I had a transfer planes in St. Louis after an hour layover. At 3:00 I arrived in the desigated location, had to rent a car and drive and hour and to the hotel sight. You get the point. By the time the speaker arrives, he or she could be tired and needs a bit of a rest before presenting.

The weekend was a huge success, but immediately following the event, the meeting planner was no where to be found. One of the audience members who was on a “high” from the weekend wanted to share every last detail of her own life with me. While I tried to maintain a certain amount of sincere interest, I was also so mentally and physically exhausted because I had given every ounce of my heart and soul to the participants during the weekend. At this point, I needed the meeting planner to be my buffer and quickly move me on out of there. But, I politely listened, and slowly walked out the door to my car, and finally explained that I’d be available via email to continue the conversation. With that, I tumbled into my car and excited the scene.

As a meeting planner, discuss the exit routine with the speaker in advance. Do they like to hang around afterwards to chat and if so, for how long? Do they want to create a “code” that will alert the meeting planner that the speaker is ready to go and should be shuffled out the door? Should it be announced in advance of the talk that the speaker will have to catch a plane immediately following the event and has to leave soon thereafter? Or as a meeting planner friend of mine, explained after hosting the famous and brilliant speaker Les Brown, that he had “performed so actively and intensly on stage and had worked up such a sweat during his performance that everyone understood his desire to exit!”

If you aren’t working with an agent or a meeting planner, the best bet is to announce the amount of time you’ll be spending after the seminar to address questions and answers. If you know that 1/2 is as much as you can spare, then announce it up front so no one will tie up all of your time. Additionally, give out your email address and suggest that if you don’t have time to talk with everyone, suggest that they email you. Lastly, if you want to get the names and addresses of everyone in attendance, invite the audience to see you after the event for some free information. This is a great way to get THEIR information without imposing.

Speakers need you to help them maintain their positive image and caring attitude by helping them graciously exit the floor when they are ready to go. Some speakers love the personal contact for hours after the speech and have the energy to do so. Others are ready to exit after a few brief moments. So next time you are discussing the details before the event, be sure and discuss the best attack for the inevitable and timely “exit routine” so your speaker goes out loving the event instead of regretting it!

Mary Gardner , The Charisma Coach! is an Executive Communications Consultant and Trainer. She works with, coaches and trains individuals, sales teams, executives, and celebrities. She owned and operated one of the first coaching institutions on the east coast, CCI, in NYC, Philly and NJ. Mary has appeared on ABC’s 20/20 and has self published a book on public speaking. Mary is married to Sway and is mommy to Jeremy 5, and lives in Orlando, FL.

Contact information: mary@marygardner.com WEB: www.marygardner.com